Lessons of Love: Amore
Lessons I have learned through the loving direction of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and Eternal Father
Monday, September 17, 2012
Find the Silver Lining
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Why is this so hard?
This quote from Elder Holland was given in a talk to mission presidents during their preparation to enter the mission field and was in reference to missionary work. He discussed how many have and still will question why the preaching of the Lord’s true gospel is so difficult. We know it is true, we know the benefits and blessings that come with uniting our lives with it, and yet the work of bringing that light to others is often monumentally difficult.
Though in my life right now, missionary work in the strict sense of the word is not the main focus but this question is one that I have asked many times. Most recently I have landed upon ‘hard times’. I have put all of my energy and even hopes into an avenue that has crumbled before my eyes. Though throughout the whole journey I knew there was a possibility that it would not work out, I was not as prepared as I thought I was to hear the message of rejection.
This was not the only occasion that has introduced pain into my life recently, but it is the most recent and seemed like the final straw. I reached a point where I knew not what else to do. So, I was compelled to cry out to the Lord, Why is this so hard? I truly have been trying my best to be good, I have been working to grow in the gospel and stretching myself further than ever before, but still everything came crumbling apart.
Elder Holland continued his message with his opinion about why it is often hard to share the gospel, and again I correlate to live God’s will and endure through rejection, heartache, trial, and strife. He said, it is so hard because Salvation never was a cheap experience. It was not so for our Savior, why would we think it should be easy for us. I was struck with the truth of this message and the power it brings. Our Savior the perfect missionary, the perfect teacher, the perfect child and the perfect person necessarily went through trial on His own to bring to pass our salvation. It seems natural to me that we too should also be required to pass through even a small portion of the sorrow and pain that He voluntarily endured for our sakes.
So, instead of asking, Why is this so hard? Should we not change this question to, Father wilt thou help me to endure? What is there for me to learn from this? Where am I to go in thy service? And What more can I do than I have now done?
These questions seek the direction of our Father in Heaven, they seek personal growth, and look to additional inspiration, strength and fortitude. May I more fully apply the atonement of my Beloved Savior into my life and have my will be swallowed up in the will of the Father’s. May I have the strength to endure through the rejection, heartache, and pain that has come and surely is yet to come. May I look beyond myself and seek to become like Him, and use the experiences of this life to build myself, build others, and share His joyful message of redemption to all who will listen.
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Mysterious Ways
Through much prayer, study, and discussions with good friends I have continued in faith. Trusting that He really is watching over me and when I am ready and when His timing is fulfilled I will begin to see what I now cannot. It is now four months after having moved away from Provo, three months from the end of a relationship I thought could last and so many moments of uncertainty and pain. I can now begin to see. I do not see the path I am on, nor do I see all that will come. But what I can see is a glimmer of light and the formation of a path, and I know it is good. The events of the past week have been both stressful and remarkable in the development of life.
Due to previous experience and growth I do not expect this vision to remain indefinitely. But rather I have stronger faith that He is guiding me and I have not strayed too far. With these glimpses of light and understanding I can endure through the darkness and unknown.
With this talk of finding the correct path however I have also learned that there is not one single path that we are to take. In Sunday school and firesides I have learned this again and again but yesterday this became more real to me that it ever could have from just being told about it.
I have been struggling with the decision to go on a mission. Not being willing to commit to going without absolute confirmation and yet knowing it to be a good thing. All the while I have been pondering this option fear has seeped into my heart and I have hesitated. Along the way another plan, path, option came into my mind. Though this also was not an easy decision and commitment to make, I have decided to step down this path (having waited for too long at the entrance of another).
Yesterday, as I was reading in the Doctrine and Covenants section 9, I read again of an experience Oliver Cowdery had as he sought permission and ability to translate. He was given the gift to do so with a little reprimand in how he had begun. Then, he allowed fear to come into his heart. I know not what specifically that fear was based upon, whether it was a doubt of his own abilities or questioning his standing before God or any other concern, but I connected with how he may have been feeling. As we continue to read we learn the direction of the Lord to Oliver. He said that when Oliver had begun the process of becoming a translator it was expedient for him to do so, but because of his actions it was no longer expedient; essentially the Lord told Oliver that he would no longer be allowed to translate. Something in his hesitation changed the situation.
Following this sobering change for Oliver the Lord reassures him that he is still in good favor with God, that “neither [He nor Joseph] did the Lord condemn” because of their actions. I feel that this is much the way my recent situation has been. When I was originally planning to go on a mission it was good and expedient. But through my choices and the experiences I have had in the meantime because of my hesitation it is no longer expedient. My path has changed. I have often worried that if I make a wrong choice and step onto the wrong path what would happen, would I ruin forever my chances to receive all the blessings that could have been mine. I now believe and trust that this is not the case, that the Lord is indeed merciful and loving and will provide for us the opportunities we need to grow to become like Him. If we falter along the way we do not loose forever the position we once held, but rather He will adjust our path to include experience which will shape us as He would have us be.
The experiences we have in life shape us into the beings our Father in Heaven would have us be. If then we miss one experience another will take its place. The destination we are seeking does not change, only the route in which we travel will shift. It is our duty to try our best to make those righteous choices and actions that will allow our Savior to continue to work in our lives. As we do this and trust in Him and in the love of our Eternal Father we have the promise that we will eventually see. That we will know the purposes of God and His mysteries. I look forward to that day and strive ever more to be diligent in accomplishing the tasks I am assigned with joy and cheerfulness in my heart.
All now mysterious shall be bright at last
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Railroad Switch and Blockade
Often we say that we seek the Lord’s direction in our lives and wait for instruction on where we should go or what we should do. In these circumstances I have found myself wondering if I could possibly miss the direction I have been given. I wonder what that direction would look like and whether I will be open to its influence when it comes. Recently I have been seeking more than ever that direction from my Father in Heaven, helping me to know who I should be and where I should go. In these decisions I need to make I have felt his peaceful influence calming my spirits but rarely feel that I have received direct answers or direction. I would like to be told which direction I should go clearly so that I may not mistake or question.
Both fortunately and unfortunately that is not the way revelation seems to work for me. I have found the pattern of direction comes much more subtly. I ponder and search out which direction I should follow and make the best decision I can, then I can take that road knowing that if it be wrong or off in any way He will correct me. And correct me He has.
In one experience I had made a decision to take a path that I thought right and good and at the time I believe it was. But then circumstances changed and another pathway opened up to me. So through much prayer, pondering and fasting I determined that the Lord was directing me down this other path. Assuring me along the way that this was where He wished me to head. Thus I adjusted my course and the promise of peace and reassurance came. During this time I discussed this decision making with a close friend and he described the change as a road block. I thought about that for a moment feeling that his description was not quite right, but rather it was more like a rail change; a shift in the track that I was on and meant to follow. As I continued to move down the track towards a worthwhile goal the Lord was able to make the rail shift that would take me where He would have me go.
Most times I believe our Father does not put road blocks in our path to stop us cold when we have chosen incorrectly. Only in dire circumstances of danger or sin would that abrupt halt occur. Rather He asks us to power our lives down the track toward Him in the best way we can manage and He will arrange the rest. Whether it takes a rail change now and then, taking us over bridges or through tunnels He will ensure that we arrive at our destination safely and with the necessary preparation to be comfortable then. All the twists and bends in the route may not make sense to us in the moment, but I am certain that He is in charge; and each bump in the road is preparing us for that which we will need to accomplish later down the road.
It takes patience and great trust to allow Him to take over the grand direction of our lives. But I have found also that it takes a balance of allowing Him to direct and not failing to act for ourselves. The key to relating our lives to a railway is that we must start the train down a path before He can switch the rails. WE must be in control of beginning the journey, keeping the momentum going strong and being sensitive to those subtle changes in the path. We know it will not be easy. But we know that it will not be lonely, if we invite and allow our Savior Jesus Christ to travel with us. He will never let us down, He will never leave us, and He will never let us fail if we remain worthy to have Him continually by our side.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Comfort Foods and Solace
Today during a casual conversation with my loving mother she suggested that I go purchase some ice cream for our family this evening and I affirmed that I was planning on it. I also made the comment that I may get some other treats as well, because, well I sure need some good comfort food. After I made that statement and the conversation concluded I continued to ponder what I had said, and I realized that it was rather incorrect; it is a nice cliché statement to make, to turn to comfort foods, but it is not accurate.
Perhaps this girls’ night is closest to my heart at this time because I have been experiencing that pain this week. The situation I have found myself in being less than ideal and not at all what I anticipated has left me questioning much in my life and sorrowful for what may be lost to me. All the while my mother and father have been my sole confidents save two.
Though right now I feel that my heart may be breaking I have not turned to the comfort of foods or anything worldly. Instead I have instinctively turned to the Lord, immersing myself in His word and the words of His servants, for I have learned throughout my life that in Him is the greatest comfort. I have spent this past week for the most part fasting, eating good solid meals only when my body absolutely needs nourishment and no snacking. Accompanying this fast of food has been a fast from any worldly media as much as possible, save communications such as phone, email, and occasionally facebook which have all been kept to a minimum. Instead of indulging in these worldly things, that I consider to be worldly comforts, I have filled that time and void with the word of God and His eternal truths.
During this period of fasting and soul searching I have learned many truths about the gospel as well as about myself and been greatly strengthened. The questions in my mind have not been resolved and the pain in my heart remains, but I have come to an even greater assurance that both my Father in Heaven and my Savior Jesus Christ are there for me and love me, even more than I can comprehend. I have felt the arms of Christ’s love enfold me and hold me when all I wanted to do, and could do, was cry to Him. My Father in Heaven has been there to listen and send peace to my soul as I have divulged the feelings and pains in my soul as well as the questions that have long clouded my mind.
These feelings are not new to me, but as the sorrows and trials in my heart become deeper and harder I find that the strength I receive from the Lord is greater as well, and more than proportionally so. I have felt what the prophets in the Book of Mormon have described, the Lord does not remove our trials from us but strengthens us in those trials that we may endure through them. This process of working through and enduring through truly does strengthen the heart and the soul. We can become surer and more steady in who we are, in our conviction of the gospel, and in our devotion to our Savior and Heavenly Father. This is one of the most powerful lessons I have learned through this experience and has brought me great solace; much more than I could expect from food, media, etc. that the world may put forth as a comfort. These are counterfeit and give counterfeit comfort, and honestly end up leaving the one in emotional pain in a bit of physical pain as well.
The solace and peace I have found came through diligently seeking to do all I can to have the spirit of God to be with me, being worthy of His presence. President Eyring made this comment, “A choice to be good – even with the trials that come will allow the Atonement to change your heart. In time and after persistence, your wants and even your needs will change.” That in itself is comfort to me. I do not have to feel concerned or lacking because of the weaknesses and imperfections I can see in myself now, but rather I can be assured that as I continue on this path with persistence that the Atonement of my Savior will work in me, and purify my soul eliminating from my character the weaknesses I now see so clearly, as well as those I do not yet see.
We receive many blessings through the gospel of Jesus Christ. This ability to become like Him, even as such imperfect beings is that which brings the most peace and joy to my heart. I have faith that He know me and He knows the sorrows I see and will yet see and He is there waiting to help me through it every step as long as I continue to turn to Him. Seek and ye shall find, Knock and it shall be opened unto you.